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Hello VIP members and this month I have, actually a very fun lesson. We’re going to be a little crazy in this lesson, so just bear with me. Just trust me here because this is an interesting process, but it’s a powerful one. The topic is ‘Scramble’, scramble.

“To scramble” means to mix up something a lot; mix it, mix it up, mix it up. We scramble eggs, for example. You break an egg and then you mix it up a lot. We call that scrambling or to scramble. So what is it we’re going to scramble this month? We’re going to scramble our limiting beliefs, limiting beliefs. What is a limiting belief?

Well, quite literally, a limiting belief is a belief that limits you, that prevents you from achieving what you want to achieve, having what you want to have, being who you want to be. That’s what a limiting belief is. We all have them. Every one of us has limiting beliefs. We all have many of them and, unfortunately, we don’t choose our beliefs so often. Where do we get these from?

Well, we get our limiting beliefs from school, that’s a big source, parents and family, the media and from our own experiences, especially painful or difficult experiences in the past and from all of these sources we develop these beliefs about our own limitations and they can become quite deep and quite strong and we can even forget about them.

We don’t even realize we have them sometimes until we really examine what’s happening in our life and then we realize oh, you know, I have this belief about this. Is that really true? Hum…

That’s the problem. It’s natural to have limiting beliefs. We all have them, but the problem is that we often don’t examine them, find them and question them. So how do you know what your limiting beliefs are? How do we find them?

Well, I think the easiest way to find them is to look at an area of your life that is not going well, an area of your life where you’re not achieving what you want to achieve, where you’re not being the kind of person you want to be. Maybe it’s a relationship or dating, marriage, family. Maybe it’s career or work, business. Maybe it’s finances.

Maybe it’s your physical body and your health and your fitness level. Maybe it’s your emotional health and your feeling of happiness and relaxation. Whatever it is, it doesn’t matter, but look at the different parts of your life.

I know we’re not all perfect, so I know there’s at least one area of your life that’s not going as well as you want it to. You’re not achieving your dreams in that area. You’re not achieving the highest level of being and acting in that area. And whenever that’s the case, whenever there’s an area of your life that’s not going particularly well, I guarantee you have a lot of limiting beliefs in that area of your life, because those are really the reason that you’re not doing well in that area of your life.

We tend to blame the circumstances. Oh, it’s because this is happening and this is happening. This problem happened and this problem happened, but that’s bullshit because other people have those same bad things happen and yet they overcome them and they grow and they have fantastic success in that area. So what’s the difference?

Well, the difference is the other person doesn’t have the same limiting beliefs that you do in that area. Money is a great example. A lot of people have lots of limiting beliefs about money, how you get it and how you earn it and how you spend it and how easy it is to get or how difficult it is to get and those beliefs tend to affect and determine how easy or difficult it is for you to acquire money. The same is true of health and lots of other things. So let me give you an example of this in my own life, a limiting belief in my own life.

I have a limiting belief about children. I have always had this belief, ever since I can remember. That kids are no fun, difficult to deal with, and that if I had a kid it would totally ruin and destroy my free, fun, interesting, adventurous life, right? I had this belief that I can’t live an adventurous life traveling all around the world, you know doing cool things, going on long hikes in mountains and going to lots of other countries and just moving around whenever I want to.

I’ve always had this belief that if I had a kid that would destroy that. I wouldn’t be able to do that. Because my limiting belief in my mind is that families have to stay in one spot and kind of live this kind of normal life and that kids need stability. That was my limiting belief.

So, you have a limiting belief too and I would like you to think about it and look in that area of life that’s difficult or that you’re struggling with and identify what are your beliefs about that area. That’s all you have to do is look at this area of life. It could be money. It could be physical fitness and health. Whatever it is, your career, it doesn’t matter. I want you to really think about it and say what are my beliefs about this?

For example, if its money and you’re struggling with money all the time, what are your beliefs about money. Do you believe that money is something that’s difficult to get or easy to get. Do you believe you have to work really, really hard to get money or that you can actually get it without working very hard.

Those are very different beliefs, right? If you believe that you must work hard to get money and that money is difficult those are limiting beliefs, because I guarantee you that people who are successful don’t believe those things. I used to believe those things and I don’t anymore. I now believe that money is very easy to get and that I don’t have to work hard to get money. I believe I have to be smart. I have to work intelligently and I have to give value to other people to get money, but I don’t believe that I have to work lots and lots of long hours suffering to get money, not at all, and when I changed that belief that’s when I started getting money.

See, I didn’t get money first and then I changed those beliefs. I changed the beliefs first and then I started getting more and more money more and more easily. Interesting, ha?

And it happened when I decided to stop being an employee. When I was an employee working for other people I had all these beliefs. Oh, it’s hard to get money, because I’m working for a paycheck, dependent on another person and the paycheck was quite small as an English teacher.

Then when I started learning more and more about business and studying it and decided to create my own business I also realized man, I’ve got these limiting beliefs about money and I’ll never be successful if I keep believing these things and so I was reading a lot about successful people in business. What did they believe, what are their beliefs about money?

Nearly all of them have beliefs that money is easy to get and it’s plentiful. There’s an abundance of money out there and that you don’t have to work hard, hard, hard all the time to get it. That you just need to be wise and intelligent and that you need to give more and more value. You’ve got to contribute to other people and the more you contribute and the more unique you are the easier and easier it will be to get money.

Then I did what I’m going to teach you today with my limiting beliefs, to destroy them, to scramble them, to get rid of those limiting beliefs and then replace them with powerful beliefs. After I did that the business started succeeding faster and faster and I started getting more and more money.

The only reason I mention money is just because it’s such a common problem for so many people and it’s measurable, right? I mean it’s really easy to know, you know, before I was making $100, now I’m making $10,000. It’s a big jump, it’s clear and it’s very easy to measure, but this is also true for emotions and relationships and anything else. So, look at that thing. Find those limiting beliefs. Make a list.

Next, you have to destroy them. You have to scramble them up. Destroy them, just like that egg. You break them and you scramble them up and then they’re never the same again. They never will have power over you again. So how are we going to do this?

There’s a few fun ways. This is where we get a little crazy, because we’re going to use some psychological tricks to destroy those limiting beliefs. So let’s just pick one limiting belief.

So let’s say for me that kids are boring and no fun, okay? Let’s say that’s mine. You choose yours. Now, the first thing we’re going to do is we’re going to mock our belief.

“To mock” something is to make fun of it. So instead of being so serious about it we’re going to make fun of it and how we’re going to do that is we’re going to say our limiting belief, but we’re going to say it with this kind of cartoon voice, a strange, goofy, funny voice.

What that does is it sends a message to our unconscious brain. It’s the same belief that the unconscious brain repeats a lot, but by making it into this funny, stupid voice the brain gets the message that oh, this is not a serious belief. It’s not something we take seriously anymore. So this is our first technique. We have a few techniques to try, this is number one.

So, for example, I might do this. I might say kids are no fun and they’re boring. You’re going to use your face and just be like a little kid. Like kids are no fun and they’re boring. Or maybe yours is about money. Money is difficult to get. Money is difficult to get. Money is difficult to get. Money is difficult to get. Money is difficult to get. And you’re gonna really act it out. Maybe close the door when you’re alone and do this. Use just a stupid little voice and you’re going to repeat it again and again and again and again and as you do it make this little, funny, stupid face and you can move around in like a stupid way.

I want you to say it again and again and again and use emotion and just really have this feeling and emotion like this is just such a stupid thing you’re saying. It’s so obviously stupid. Money is difficult to get. Money is difficult to get. Money is really difficult to get. I’ll never make enough money. I’ll make money. I’m always going to be poor, aha. Money is difficult to get. Money is difficult to get, again and again and again and you’ll do this for like five or 10 minutes.

Yes, I know, it’s crazy and strange, but our brains work in crazy and strange ways. This is kind of using the software of your brain. See, your brain reacts to two things. It reacts to the words, but it also reacts to the emotion and so when you mix those two things it starts to make that limiting belief weaker. I promise you it works, just do it. You’re going to feel strange. You’re going to feel stupid. That’s what I want you to feel. You want to have a feeling of feeling stupid as you say the limiting beliefs and then those two start to become connected in your mind and then that belief becomes weaker. That’s our first step.

The next thing, we’re going to get even stranger. The next thing I want you to do is you’re going to keep saying it in that cartoon voice, money is difficult to get, money is difficult to get and then you’re going to stick your finger right up your nose like this. Just like this and you’re going to say money is difficult to get. You can even move it around.

Money is difficult to get. Money is difficult to get. Money is difficult to get. Money is difficult to get. You could jump up and down like this with this finger in your nose.

Again, why are we doing this? This is like AJ you’re frickin’ crazy. Why are you doing this? Again, what we’re doing is we’re sending a message to your unconscious brain.

We’re connecting this extremely stupid, silly, behavior and feeling to the belief. So what happens in the back of your brain is that those two things get connected – this belief and stupid and silly – and your brain, starts to believe that oh, this is a stupid and silly belief. This is not a serious belief. It really scrambles it up and weakens it. It weakens the power that it has over you.

So what you’re going to do is, I’d say, again, for five more minutes, you’re going to do the same thing with the little voice and you’re going to have your finger right up your nose. You could even do two if you want. Money is difficult to get. Money is difficult to get. Money is difficult to get. Just play with it and have fun and be really silly and stupid.

This is part of the first process of really scrambling up and destroying and weakening that limiting belief.

All right and then, finally, the next thing we need to do, the final part of scrambling it, is that you have to find counter examples to your belief. What does that mean? It means examples that are the opposite of your belief. So you’re going to actually go out there, you can get on the Internet, that’s a great place to do it, and you’re going to go searching for examples that prove that your belief is wrong.

So if money is difficult to forget, to get, forget too, maybe, but money is difficult to get, you would go and you’d start reading books about people who made a lot of money and did so easily. And you would get online and you would find people who made a lot of money and are very successful and you find out what are their beliefs and you would start collecting role models and examples of people who believe the total opposite. Let me give you a simpler example of this.

My good friend Joe, Joe Weiss of Learn Real English, is a great English teacher, really good. I put him in the top .1% of English teachers in the world. He’s trained in a very special technique called TPRS, a storytelling technique that we use in our mini stories.

Very few people are trained to do that and he’s very good at it, which puts him right, right, right at the top.

Joe, though, has some limiting beliefs about dressing, especially. See, Joe is a very casual guy. He’s always had long hair, he loves music and so for him he doesn’t like dressing, for example, like I do and sometimes when we do live events where we make videos we try to dress nicely and wear a nice suit or something, because it makes people feel a little more comfortable like oh, these guys are real teachers, even though they’re acting crazy, okay?

So, Joe has had these limiting beliefs about wearing a suit, oh no, because in his mind people who wear suits are boring businesspeople. That’s his limiting belief, right? Only boring businesspeople wear suits. Only boring businesspeople wear suits. That’s kind of his core belief and so therefore he doesn’t want to wear a suit or dress up and look really nice. He wants to dress really casually, because he’s like okay, creative, interesting, sincere people, artistic people, caring people don’t dress that way. They don’t wear suits. They wear kind of more casual clothes.

See these are his limiting beliefs, but he kind of needs to wear a suit for some of our events so how can he change that? Well, an easy way to change that is that we, meaning myself and Kristen, the other teacher in Learn Real English, have been sending him pictures of artistic, cool, interesting, creative people who are also wearing suits. You see? It starts scrambling and messing with his belief.

He believes that only boring businesspeople wear suits, so we’re sending him pictures of musicians who have long hair and they’re really interesting, cool people. Not businesspeople at all, but they’re dressed in like a nice black suit like Johnny Depp an actor or Santana the guitarist or Jimmy Page a famous rock guitarist.

We’re just sending him more and more and more and more and more and more and more of these examples and soon it’s hard for him to continue believing that belief, because here he has more and more and more examples of interesting, creative, artistic people who are also wearing suits, cool musicians that he loves and he admires and they’re wearing suits. Cool actors who are wearing suits. People who are definitely not boring businesspeople, they’re super creative and interesting and fascinating people and caring people with good hearts and they’re wearing suits.

You see how if you start finding those counter examples it will start weakening that belief very strongly. Here’s how I did it myself with kids. I went out and I found a book called Adventuring with Children by this couple that go on adventures with their kids.

This woman is describing how even at the age of six months, little six-month-old babies, they took them hiking with them in Nepal or in India and they’ve done all these incredible adventure trips and these long sailboat trips. Just really cool adventures, amazing adventures that I would love to do just alone and they took their babies. They took their little children with them.

Through their children’s whole life, from six months old until teenager, they have always taken their kids on all these adventure trips, traveling around, living this incredibly cool, interesting, adventurous lifestyle. I read that and that started whoa, that’s a counter example. It’s totally the opposite of my belief. I was like whoa, I was wrong I think. You can have an adventurous life and have kids, right? It totally started to destroy and eat away and weaken my limiting belief.

So you want to go out there and find more and more and more and more examples that go against your limiting belief. So you do all this crazy stuff with your voice and your nose, then you go find all these examples that prove that your belief is wrong and in that way you will scramble it up, weaken it and destroy it. And then, finally, the last step, as you can probably guess, is you do want to replace it.

Once you get rid of it you want to replace it with something powerful. So choose the opposite, choose a powerful version of your belief and say it every morning with a lot of emotion and with a strong body. So you could say money is easy to get and I’m getting a lot of it. Money is easy to get and I’m getting a lot of it. Money is easy to get and I’m getting a lot of it.

You would say this to yourself in this way again and again and again every single morning and you would replace your limiting belief with a powerful belief. That’s how you do it. That’s how you scramble and destroy limiting beliefs and create powerful ones and this will totally change the results you’re getting in your life.

All right, I will see you next time. Have a great month and tell us about scrambling those beliefs and which beliefs you’re scrambling on our social site, bye-bye.