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VIP Commentary - Scramble

Hello VIP and welcome to this month’s commentary. I’d like to talk a little more about this topic of ‘Scrambling’. Now, limiting beliefs is a topic that we have discussed in the past and we’ll probably discuss again in the future because it’s really essential to think about your limiting beliefs. It’s very important.

You see, we tend to focus externally, on the external problems that prevent us from having the life we want. We all do it. I do it too. We all do it, right, because those things are easier to see or to experience. They’re right there in front of us in our face and so it’s very easy to identify the external obstacles, the external problems, the external challenges, very easy to see.

If there’s someone at your job, for example, who’s very difficult and they cause problems for you all the time, well it’s very easy to identify that because you see that person at your job every day. Every day they’re bothering you and annoying you and causing problems and you’re like ah! This person’s a problem. This person’s an obstacle. So not hard to identify that at all and that’s the case for most of our external problems and challenges and obstacles, the things which stop us. But, unfortunately, a lot of us can forget that the biggest obstacles of all are internal.

See, we like to focus on the external ones because we can feel a little better about that.

I know how it works, I’ve done it too. You focus on the external problem, that other person who’s causing the problem, the system that’s causing the problem, whatever it is. It’s easy because then you get to point your finger and complain about them. They’re causing me this problem. It’s because of this and this and this outside of me. That’s easier to do. A little bit of mental laziness, honestly. But not a lot changes when we focus externally only.

Yes, we have to figure out how to solve those external problems in our life, of course we do, but for those deep problems, the things that really limit us and the things especially which limit us long term, you know which keep creating problems for us again and again and again and again and again, those are internal. We might think they’re external, but they’re actually internal. They’re caused by our own limiting beliefs. Let me give you an example of this.

Let’s just imagine somebody who is always dating jerks. Let’s imagine a woman, a woman who’s always dating jerks. A jerk is a bad guy or just kind of a rude, unfriendly, even mean guy. So I’ve had female friends in the past who are like this and they always complain. I’m always dating bad guys. They seem nice in the beginning, but then they always become jerks. Where are all the nice men? Where are all the good men?

They’re looking externally and they blame it externally. They see the problem as external, that the problem is there are no good men out there in the world, but of course that’s not the case.

When something like that is recurring again and again, a problem is recurring, it’s almost always the case that it’s an internal problem, because you see that woman is choosing those guys each time. She’s attracted to them each time. So the problem isn’t that the world is full of evil men, the problem is that she’s attracted to them, right? For some reason, she’s attracted to jerks. She’s attracted to guys who seem kind of nice in the beginning and then they’re actually not.

Now, there are many women who are not like that. There are many women who date only nice guys. They’re always dating wonderful guys or they’ve found a wonderful guy and married them, whatever. So that’s one case in terms of dating and the same is true for men. You know, men who complain oh, women are bad wah, wah, wah.

But in these cases it’s really the internal beliefs that are causing the problem; therefore, you have to get inside and find those limiting beliefs and they can be tricky because we lie to yourselves. You know we try to protect ourselves. We always want to see ourselves as the great, big, wonderful hero and we want to think of ourselves as strong and great and super intelligent and all that is good, but what it also means is that we sometimes avoid looking at our own negative beliefs.

We’re sometimes not completely honest about how we really think and how we really feel and by avoiding those things we keep them alive and they keep affecting us. So that’s why it’s very important to really think about it deeply, to look at our lives and to look at the patterns in our lives and to see especially the negative patterns. There are certain kinds of things that just keep happening again and again and again, certain kinds of “bad luck”, because in those cases we’re usually causing it ourselves.

It’s not that we’re, you know, terrible people. It’s not that there’s something wrong with this. It’s just that we have some negative limiting beliefs which are causing us to act in a certain way which then creates these problems and then here’s the worse part. It creates those problems and when we have the problems that makes our limiting belief stronger, because then we believe it even more and it becomes this downward spiral.

So the way to break that is the first thing we have to do is we gotta find what are those limiting beliefs. What are those negative beliefs that we’re causing to become real and then we gotta break them and the breaking part is quite fun. I find it to be a very fun process.

Finding the beliefs can be tough because, again, you have to be really honest with yourself. You really gotta think about it deeply. You really gotta look at your own life and say whoa, maybe I’m the problem. Maybe I’m causing these problems. Maybe it’s not the world or these people or men or women or whatever, but if you do that you can create a really amazing life for yourself.

So first you gotta find those limiting beliefs. What are they? We all have them so if you’re answering I don’t have any then you’re lying to yourself, because unless you’re some enlightened Buddha or something you’ve got them. I have them, we all have them and, frequently, we need to think about them and identify them and then, then, we need to scramble them. And that’s the fun part for this month – scrambling.

I gave you a few little crazy techniques and there are countless ways you can scramble limiting beliefs and you can really make it game. So I encourage you to make it fun, because looking at these negative beliefs we have and finding them and thinking about them and taking responsibility for your own life and saying no, it’s not them it’s me, I’m causing the problem, I’m the root of the problem, well that feels very serious and heavy.

It can. So, on the flipside, on the other side, we should at least make the process of getting rid of those beliefs fun.

We should make it playful and effective, so there are all kinds of crazy ways. You can repeat the belief to yourself again and again with a strange, weird voice. So if you have some belief, I don’t know, that you’re not attractive let’s say, you say I’m not attractive, I’m not attractive, so you start saying that belief to yourself, but you use a crazy, weird voice. I’m not attractive. I’m not attractive. I talked about this in the video a little bit.

You can do other things too. You can jump around in a circle with your finger up your nose and do all kinds of crazy stuff like that while saying the beliefs and you can do this again and again and again and it starts to scramble it. Another thing you can do to scramble beliefs, and this is very powerful, is to take actions that go against the belief.

Take actions that go directly against the belief.

So, for example, if you believe that you’re shy, I’m a shy person, I had this belief, actually, when I was younger, then what you can do is you can take actions that go against that belief. What does it mean? Go out and do super social things. Go to parties. Go to places where there are lots of new people and even if you feel uncomfortable it’s okay, just go do it. Just by doing it, even if you don’t, you know, become super talkative and everything, just by taking actions that are strange and different and not part of your belief pattern you will start to weaken that pattern.

So if you think oh, I’m not an adventurous person, oh, I’m a boring person, well take a round the world trip if you can do it or travel to some location that seems very exotic and adventurous to you. Just book it and go. Whatever happens, happens, but just do it.

Just by going you will begin to weaken that belief.

You can see how this works, right? On one hand you have a belief, but then on the other hand you’re clearly taking an action that doesn’t fit the belief and so your unconscious mind has to adjust. It starts getting scrambled a bit. It’s like whoa, wait, wait, I’m supposed to be a safe unadventurous person, but here I am traveling in Morocco or whatever. So your brain starts saying whoa, whoa, whoa that doesn’t fit and it starts creating a little bit of confusion in there. The limiting belief starts getting weaker and starts getting scrambles.

Now, I’ve done this in my own life many times. This is probably my preferred way to scramble my limiting beliefs. I just take actions that are opposite of the belief and, yes, they can feel uncomfortable, but I just do it anyway and it starts breaking the belief down. It starts to make it weaker and weaker and weaker.

And this is fun, so you should do it in a fun way. Do something that does seem exciting and fun to you, but that really goes against the belief completely. So if you have the belief oh, I’m not attractive, I’m not attractive, well then, you know, go to a salon and get your hair fixed and get several really nice new shirts and dresses if you’re a woman and outfits. Get your nails done. Just go crazy to make yourself look fabulous, look great.

And, you know, even if you judge yourself after oh, I’m still not attractive, it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter. Don’t worry about the results afterwards, just take the action that’s the opposite of the belief. Just by taking the action the belief will get weaker. You start creating doubt.

See, sometimes doubt is good, right? When we’re taking about positive beliefs, well we want certainly. We want to feel certain. I am certain that I can face any problem. I am certain that I will succeed. I am certain that I will achieve my dreams. That’s great. We don’t want to doubt that. However, doubt does have a purpose. Doubt is a useful thing.

We want to use doubt with our negative beliefs.

So if we believe something that’s negative we’re limiting. For example, if we think oh, I’m not going to be successful, my family doesn’t have money and I’m poor, there’s no way I’ll ever be successful financially, well let’s imagine you have that belief and yet you do want to have a financially successful life or a career, the first thing you can do is just start doubting it. Doubt that negative belief. You start creating more and more doubt.

How do we create doubts? You can ask questions. You can say well, I mean, is it really true that poor people cannot become rich? Just ask that question. That’s a doubtproducing question. Is it really true? Is it always true that…whatever? And if you ask that question and you’re honest, you have to answer that question well, no, it’s not always true. Clearly there are many stories of very rich people who began very, very poor. We all know the stories.

If you really want to create doubt then you take the next step, which is after you ask that question then you actually start looking for situations, looking for cases, looking for examples that prove that your negative belief is in fact wrong, right? This is how you do it. You keep asking these kinds of questions and then you go find examples to make it even weaker. It’s a process. It takes time. It’s not just, you know, suddenly in one minute your deep limiting beliefs are totally gone. No, it usually takes more time than that.

But again, let’s use this example of someone who’s poor and has all these beliefs about oh, I’ll never be rich. I want to be rich, but I’ll never be rich. They believe oh, I’m poor.

Oh, I don’t have enough education. I can’t afford to go to college, all these kind of beliefs. Because of this I’ll never be rich. I’m from a poor country. So they could take each of those as a belief, right, and all together it’s kind of one big belief, but you could start attacking each little piece.

So you could say well, is it true that people who are poor can never become rich? Is it always true? Then, of course, you have to say well, no, it’s not always true. I mean, clearly, there are examples in the world of people who were poor and now they’re rich.

Then you could ask another question about is it true that people from poor countries can never become rich? Then, again, no, obviously it’s not true because again you can find examples in your own country of people who did become rich.

Then to make the beliefs even weaker, then you could go read biographies, for example. Read biographies. Read the actual life stories of people who were poor who became rich. Read the life stories of people from a poor country who then became rich.

Read the life stories of people who did not go to college, who did not have an expensive education, but they still became rich.

By filling yourself with these stories over and over and just reading book after book after book, reading articles about these people constantly, that limiting belief will become weaker and weaker and weaker. And then, of course, you could use the scramble techniques we saw in the video and use those with the same beliefs to make them even weaker.

So you attack these limiting beliefs with all these different tools all at the same time.

That’s how you make them weaker and weaker and weaker. You keep creating more and more and more and more doubt about those beliefs until, eventually, you doubt them so much that they’re not beliefs anymore. You’re like well obviously, that’s just not true. Not true at all.

And then, of course, once you scramble those limiting beliefs, those weak beliefs, once they are no longer strong, once they are full of doubt then, of course, you need to replace them with something positive. Don’t just stop there. It’s very important that the next step is then you add a positive belief, but scrambling the limiting beliefs is always the first step.

You know that movie ‘The Secret’ when you imagine the future you want and you see it clearly and you create powerful beliefs about it, sometimes that doesn’t work for people.

People think oh, it doesn’t work. It doesn’t work. No. The only problem is that people don’t scramble the weak ones first.

See, if you don’t get rid of the weak beliefs, if you don’t get rid of the limiting beliefs first and then you try to add positive ones, well then the positive one you’re trying to add, the new one, will be kind of fighting against the negative one you already have and the negative one you already have will make it difficult for you to achieve the positive one.

There’s a conflict inside your unconscious mind and this can limit your ability to succeed.

So, as a first step, always identify and then weaken and then get rid of the negative limiting beliefs first, the things which are stopping you internally. Then step two is to create powerful beliefs and powerful goals and a powerful vision of what you want and to really believe it strongly, but first you gotta get rid of those bad ones.

All right, so that’s it. Your homework, as you probably guessed, is to identify the top two or three limiting beliefs in your life, the worst beliefs that you have about yourself or about life, the ones that have created continuous problems for you. Identify them and then start scrambling them in all the ways we’ve discussed, the ways we’ve discussed in the video, the ways I’ve discussed in this audio.

Start scrambling them and keep working on them. Keep scrambling them every day this month and make them weaker and weaker and weaker. You can discuss them on our social site if you are feeling brave and you want to really share this. I think it would be great, very interesting for all of us to share these.

All right, I will see you next time. Have a great month scrambling your limiting beliefs, bye-bye.