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Verbal Bullying – Interactive Essay Lesson A

Hello and welcome to this months’ VIP interactive A lesson. First, I will read the interactive essay and then I will tell you the meaning of vocabulary. Let’s begin.

The basic idea is that if you can make the other person feel small or angry, you are winning at the verbal bullying game. This is why verbal bullies are constantly accusing other people of being mad or upset. It’s just another way of them claiming to be winning the conversation. If you can make the other person submit, run away or fall silent, then you have won the conversation, and you are higher in the verbal bully hierarchy than they are.

So it doesn’t matter what you actually say, and in fact, resorting to straight up name calling, the more ridiculous the better, is often the fastest and most efficient way to get through the conversational process with a verbal bully. If they launch the usual sexist, racist, homophobic, Nazi line, don’t blink. Just hit them right back with racist, child molester, pedophile, monster and watch them run.

If you’re of a more delicate constitution and are not willing to go that far, even when attacked unprovoked, try creepy and stalker on the men and psycho or ugly on the women and it will usually have much the same effect. You know your rhetoric is effective when they block you online or in person, if their eyes widen with shock and their jaw drops. You will know you have mastered the art of rhetoric if you can make a verbal bully retreat in tears or cause a room full of people to gasp in disbelief before bursting out laughing at the verbal bully.

Again, you must keep in mind that the actual information content is irrelevant. Verbal bullies communicate in competitive emotion. If you’re not doing the same then you’re not communicating with them, you’re doing little more than playing punching bag for their verbal strikes.

I realize this probably doesn’t make sense, but that’s because you are a normal, sane individual who thinks rather than feels. Don’t try to work through the logic of it all just try it, it works. Chances are that you’ll be as surprised as I, to discover how effective it can be to speak in rhetoric to the rhetoric speakers.

Okay, that’s our essay. Now let’s learn the vocabulary. Back to the beginning.

Vocabulary The basic idea is that if you can make the other person feel small or angry

Feel small means feel weak… so make the other person feel weak.

Then you’re winning at the verbal bullying rhetoric.

Remember, rhetoric is kind of the persuasive use of language or the emotional use of language. So, we’re talking about persuasive and emotional use of language, that’s rhetoric.

So verbal bullies use rhetoric, they’re using emotional persuasive language they’re not using logic. So this is why verbal bullies are constantly accusing other people of being mad or upset. It’s just another way of them claiming to be winning the conversation. If you can make the other person submit…

Submit means surrender, to surrender.

If you can make the other person submit or surrender, run away or fall silent…

Fall silent means to become silent, become silent.

Then you have won the conversation and you are higher in the verbal hierarchy than they are, the verbal bullying hierarchy.

Hierarchy means a rank.

Verbal bullies have this idea that people are ranked right, you’re either above them or you’re below them. And to fight against them you have to put yourself above them and then they’ll stop eventually.

So it doesn’t matter what you actually say, and in fact, resorting to straight up name calling, the more ridiculous the better, is often the fastest and most efficient way to get through the conversational process with a verbal bully.

Resorting to straight up name calling…Resorting to means choosing something that you don’t really want to do. Right, it’s not your first choice. It’s not something you want to do but you have to do it. So you don’t want to call people names, you’re a nice person. I don’t want to either, but sometimes we must resort to, we must choose something we don’t want, because it’s necessary.

So resorting to straight up name calling… name calling means insults, right, insulting.

Straight up means direct. So direct insults is what its saying.

When you’re dealing with a verbal bully don’t use logic, usually the easiest thing to do is just call them names, just direct name calling, direct insults. And, what kind of names? The more ridiculous the better.

Ridiculous means absurd, crazy, laughable, super extreme.

You’re not trying to be truthful, you can be ridiculous, just crazy, absurd insults are often most effective. It’s often the fastest and most efficient way to get through the conversational process with a verbal bully.

Conversational process just means talking.

If they, if the verbal bully, if they launch the usual sexist, racist, homophobic Nazi line…

Line means sentence or, in this case, insult.

So if they launch, launch means to start, if they start the usual. It means if they call you names, if they say you’re a sexist, you’re a racist, you’re a homophobic, you’re a Nazi, whatever they say it doesn’t matter. If they say one of those things, if they insult you don’t blink. This is an idiom.

Don’t blink means don’t hesitate, don’t stop, don’t pause, don’t hesitate, don’t blink.

Just hit them right back, hit them right back means attack them back.

They attack you so you just immediately attack them with racist, child molester, pedophile, monster. These are just examples of insults you can say back to them.

A child molester is someone who, basically who rapes a child.

A pedophile is someone who wants to have sex with children.

These are terrible, terrible things to say.

A monster, of course, is just like an evil person.

So he’s saying, this is Vox Day by the way. This essay is by a guy named Vox Day. He’s saying if they call you terrible names for no reason, then you call them terrible names for no reason and then watch them run, watch them stop or get really upset.

Then he says, if you’re of a more delicate constitution…

Delicate means soft. Constitution means your character, what you’re made of.

So he’s saying, if you’re a softer person, maybe calling someone a pedophile is too strong for you. So he’s saying, if you have a softer personality, a more delicate constitution and you’re not willing to go that far…

Go that far means be that extreme, be that strong and extreme.

So maybe you’re a little softer, you can’t say those terrible things. Even when attacked unprovoked…

Unprovoked means without reason, without cause, without reason. Verbal bullies often will attack you for no reason. They just think you’re nice. They think you’re weak. They think they can do it and win, so that’s why they attack you. There’s no cause. There’s no reason. You don’t deserve it.

So he’s saying, even if you won’t say those terrible things when you’re attacked for no reason, then you can try softer insults. For example, try creepy and stalker on the men.

So creepy means kind of scary and weird, scary and weird. Creepy, creepy.

And a stalker is usually a man who, well actually that’s not true, man or a woman, it’s someone who follows another person around right. They look through the windows. They spy on people. Usually it’s like a man who likes a woman and he follows her around all the time. Or a woman likes a man, she follows him around, secretly watching him all the time that’s a stalker.

So Vox says, you can use these insults they’re softer insults for men, creepy and stalker. And for women you can say psycho or ugly.

A psycho is a crazy person, a super scary crazy person. Ugly I’m sure you understand.

And these smaller insults will usually have much the same effect, have the same effect.

You know your rhetoric is effective, your emotional language is effective, when they block you online or in person, if their eyes widen with shock is like surprise, and their jaw drops.

So your jaws like your mouth right, so if you’re suddenly shocked and surprised you might open your mouth wide, your jaw, your lower mouth will drop open, because you’re shocked and surprised.

So he’s saying you know you’re doing a good job. You know you’re fighting effectively against a verbal bully if they block you online, if this is online they block you. They don’t want to hear from you anymore or if it’s face-to-face, if their eyes get really wide because they’re shocked and their mouth opens, their jaw drops.

You know you have mastered the art of rhetoric if you can make a verbal bully retreat in tears…

In tears means crying and retreat means run away.

So you can make them run away, go away crying or cause a room full of people to gasp in disbelief…

A gasp is like a sudden breath, it’s that sound, it’s the sudden breath we make when we’re surprised. Gasp in disbelief means they can’t believe you just said that.

Before bursting out laughing at the verbal bully, so first they gasp. You get the room, let’s say you’re in a room, so he’s saying imagine you’re in a room like a party and some verbal bully’s attacking you saying, uh you’re a sexist, you’re this, you’re that. I had this happen to me in San Francisco several years ago. Some woman for no reason, no reason at all, I was talking about riding my motorcycle and she just suddenly started attacking me for riding a motorcycle. Saying I was sexist, all this crazy stuff and I had to use some of these techniques against her because she was just attacking me for no reason, trying to bully me. I attacked back and she did kind of gasp in disbelief. And then maybe the other people also then, after they gasped they laugh at the verbal bully. Then you know you’re doing a good job, you’re winning.

Again, you must keep in mind that the actual information content is irrelevant.

Irrelevant means meaningless, not important, not related.

So he’s saying, when you deal with Verbal bullies you can’t worry about logic, don’t worry about the information, there’s zero information it’s all about emotion. It’s just emotion and insults that’s all they are doing and you have to fight back with the same or else they’re going to intimidate you.

Verbal bullies communicate in competitive emotion. If you’re not doing the same then you’re not communicating with them, you’re doing little more than playing punching bag for their verbal strikes. So you have to match their emotional language with yours. If you don’t do that then you’re playing punching bag. What’s a punching bag, right? It’s a bag boxer’s use, a bag, a punching bag. A punching bag is just sitting there not moving or hanging there and then just getting punched all the time. So he’s saying, if you don’t use rhetoric, emotional language and insults, if you don’t do that then you will just be attacked by the verbal bully. You’ll not be defending yourself you’ll just be playing a punching bag, like they will just be punching you, hitting you, insulting you and you will be doing nothing.

Playing bag for their verbal strikes, strikes here means attacks. Punching bag for their verbal attacks. So you’re just gonna be sitting there taking their verbal attacks.

He said, I realize this probably doesn’t make sense. This isn’t meaningful for you, you don’t understand it. But that’s because, the reason you don’t understand this is because you are a normal, sane individual, sane person.

Sane is the opposite of insane. Sane means your mind is normal, you’re not crazy.

You’re a normal, sane individual who thinks rather than just feels. So he’s saying he understands, he understands that you probably won’t like this. You probably don’t understand this, but that’s because you’re a normal, nice person, but verbal bullies are not normal and nice. So you can’t deal with them with logic, you can’t deal with them in a nice way.

He’s right. Unfortunately, I’ve had this experience many times also with verbal bullies and I’ve tried to be reasonable, logical and nice and oh, it never works. They just keep attacking and attacking and I feel horrible. So when I learned how to do this, when I learned how to fight back with rhetoric, I was able to stop the verbal bullies and I still am able to do that, and so I have much more self-respect. This is effective, it’s not something you probably want to do but if it’s necessary you need to do it.

Don’t try to work through the logic of it all…

Work through the logic means understand the logic.

Don’t try to understand the logic. Don’t try to work through the logic of it all just try it, it works. Chances are…

Chances are means likely, probably.

Chances are, probably, that you’ll be as surprised as I was to discover, to learn how effective it can be to speak in rhetoric to rhetoric speakers.

To speak in rhetoric means to use emotional language with rhetoric speakers, with emotional speakers.

So, if a verbal bully is attacking you with emotional language, calling you names, saying crazy stuff about you, you’ll be surprised how effective it is just to do the same thing to them. Don’t try to defend yourself logically. Just attack back with emotion and insults. You’ll be surprised and I agree with Vox Day here, you will be surprised how effective it is. It’s very, very effective.

Okay, that is the end of part A lesson. I will see you in part B.