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Decisiveness – Commentary

Hi this is AJ, welcome to the commentary for this months’ VIP lesson.

So there I was my eyes were closed. My heart was beating, boom-boom, boom-boom, boom- boom, boom-boom. I was nervous. I was afraid, as I waited for the attack. I knew my attacker was much bigger than me. I knew he was stronger than I was. Boom-boom, boom-boom, boom-boom, I didn’t know when the attack would come. Waiting, eyes closed, I didn’t know if he would attack from the front, the side, the back, I had no idea and that created even more fear and worry. I was intimidated.

Suddenly, someone grabbed me from behind and lifted me up. My feet came off the ground. I opened my eyes and spun, turned with all my force of my body that I could and I started throwing my elbows back into his body and then into his head. Now, he was wearing a big protective suit, so I hit as hard as I could and I just moved and I wiggled, and turned and I kept fighting. My only thought, my one and only thought was, ‘attack, attack, attack, attack, attack’. And that’s what I did.

Eventually, because I was attacking so forcefully, he couldn’t hold onto me anymore. His grip broke and my feet came back to the ground. I immediately turned and attacked him with all of my energy and force. Relentlessly I attacked him. I hit him in the head as hard as I could. I knee kicked him in the groin between the legs as hard as I could. I elbowed him in the head again and again and again and again. Some of my attacks missed. Some were weak and not effective. But, because I was overwhelmingly decisive, because I just kept relentlessly attacking, relentless action with no pause, I drove him backwards, even though he was much bigger than me. Even though he had a nice big protective suit, a huge protection over his head, his body and of course his groin.

But the force of my action pushed him back and eventually knocked him down. And when he fell down I immediately jumped on him and started to kick him as hard as I could with my knee. And then finally, the instructor blew the whistle and I stopped. This was my first fast defense training fight. Fast defense is a kind of self-defense. It’s a very effective self-defense system and the number one principle of fast defense is to attack decisively and relentlessly, I mean that’s it really, to be honest. You don’t defend, you don’t block, you don’t think, you just immediately attack the other person and you never stop until they go down and they stop moving. That’s it.

Super decisive… the power of that system and that training is that it teachers you to be instantly decisive. You have one decision only, attack and then you just keep doing it again and again. Instant decision when you’re in danger and then relentless action that never stops.

And that is how someone much smaller and even weaker can defend themselves against someone much, much, much bigger and stronger. How do we know this? Well, because many students have been trained at fast defense, and some of these students have actually survived real life attacks. One of their students was a woman. She’d been through the training, she did the training and one night in her house she woke up with a strange man on top of her in the bed and he had a knife against her throat, her neck.

And he was going to rape her. Well, she waited and as soon as he moved the knife away from her neck she acted decisively. She attacked him just as I did in that practice fight and she just kept attacking and attacking him, and hitting him and hitting him and hitting him and hitting him with all force, yelling and screaming as she did it and never ever, ever, ever stopped. She knocked him unconscious, and this guy was 2 times bigger than her and he woke her up in the middle of the night and surprised her. But, because of her decisiveness and relentless force and action, she eventually knocked him out, knocked him unconscious then went over to the phone and called the police, and then they came and go him.

That’s impressive. There are many stories from their students like this, of people being attacked, especially woman, and fighting off, successfully fighting and defending themselves against bigger, stronger men and of course, men take the course too and they have also successfully defended themselves. Not because they’re stronger physically, but basically, because they are super decisive. They are trained to be decisive in that situation. The tactual techniques are very, very, very, very simple and easy, anyone can do them. It’s the decisiveness and relentless action that gives the power to that system.

See most people, when they are threatened or attacked they freeze they don’t decide. They don’t know what to do they’re scared. They try to talk and they’re paralyzed by inaction, by fear and that’s why they get hurt or killed.

So, the point of this is not that you’re going to get attacked, I hope you never get attacked. But, this is a good metaphor, it’s a good example for all of life’s problems. For any time something horrible, scary or difficult happens to you, any huge problem that seems overwhelming. Again, what do most of us do? We freeze and then the paralysis of analysis right? We start thinking what should I do? What’s the best thing to do? I don’t know. Then, because we freeze the problem defeats us and we get weaker and weaker. Just as when in a physical attack right, most women or guys even, in a physical attack or if they’re threatened, if someone has a knife or someone’s yelling and threatening to fight them or hurt them.

Again, they kind of freeze and they start thinking what should I do? Should I run? Should I talk? Should I fight back? All these thoughts go through their head and they get again, the paralysis of analysis and then the attacker hurts them or takes their money or even kills them. So, just as in the self-defense situation in life, often you don’t need the perfect technique right. In fast defense there’s no perfect technique, there’s not some super ninja technique, wah you know, you’re gonna instantly in one hit knock out someone two times bigger than you. That almost never happens. There’s no great wonderful super technique. You’re not gonna do a big kick to their head. It’s not the movies. It’s not the super, secret technique or perfect technique that creates the success in the situation, it’s just the violent decisive action, that violence of action that just instantly making that decision and then relentlessly, and in that case literally, violently attacking, attacking, attacking.

Well you can have that same mindset with some big problem, something that scares you, something that just seems like such a huge problem and you just don’t know what to do. And you’ve just struggled with it in your life and it’s intimidating you, maybe you’re afraid, maybe you just feel so super frustrated. Well enough thinking, attack it. Imagine you’re in the same situation like that woman in the bed. You’re fighting for your life, you’re just going to relentlessly attack. Make a decision on that problem and attack it, like your life depended on it and don’t stop until that problem is destroyed.

Let’s go through some examples. One is weight loss, a common one, weight loss. Lots and lots and lots and lots of people have too much fat, they’re too fat. This is a big problem in America, but it’s really becoming a big problem everywhere. And so many people freeze, say oh what should I do? What’s the perfect diet? What’s the perfect exercise? They think and they think and they maybe take some small little action, then they change their mind and oh, what do I do? I don’t know. Look, choose one thing. You don’t need the perfect diet. You don’t need the perfect exercise, you just need something. Choose one, do it and attack it, attack it, attack it for 30 days or more.

Right, exercise every single day, it doesn’t matter what you choose. If you choose lots of walking fine, walk every single day. If you choose lifting weights, great, lift weights every day. Kettle bells, push-ups, pull-ups whatever it is it doesn’t matter, just decide and act massively every single day.

What about starting a business or a career? This is another one people get, and this is a common one because so many people ask me about this one, because I’m an entrepreneur, because I started my own business. I own my own business. A lot of people will ask me, how should I start a business? What should I do? What kind of business should I start? And of course I don’t know, I can’t make those decisions for them everyone’s different.

Okay, so my best advice for someone who thinks they want to start a business is just do it! Just make a decision. Just decide. Choose a business. Choose a type of business and just start it and just start it, now! Right now, today! Start it. And then every day action, action, action. Attack that business. You’re going to have a lot of problems. There’s going to be tons and tons and tons of problems in any business you start I promise you, and they never end. So you have to attack them, especially in the beginning there are so many problems and, of course, you just don’t know. You’ve never done it before probably so you really don’t know what to expect.

So forget trying to plan it all. I don’t really like business plans, to be honest. Because I think business plans are usually an excuse for procrastination. Oh, I’m gonna make the perfect plan of 20 pages. I’m going to plan out everything. You know what, eh, just start. Be smart about it, don’t risk a lot of money. Start with very little money. Start with nothing, but just start. Take action, action, attack it, just like in the self-defense example.

Here are some principles to think about.

Principle number one… you don’t need to choose the best action.

In fact, you don’t even need to choose the right action. You don’t need best. You don’t need right. You don’t need correct. None of those are important.

Number two… you need decisions and actions, that’s what you need. Decisions and actions, not guarantees. You need decisions and actions. Decide act, decide act, decide act.

Number three… you need an attacking mindset.

Too many people have a defensive mindset. This is another way to think about it. Right, a defensive mindset means you feel like the problem is attacking you. You want to start a business but oh, there’s all these problems and you don’t know and you’re not sure. I don’t have enough money. I don’t know what I’m doing and you feel like all these problems are kind of attacking you, you’re trying to defend. You’re reacting against them, trying to defend against them. Same with weight loss, oh, I’ve got this problem. I’m this victim. My health is bad. Oh, this unhealthy food it’s so difficult. I want to eat bad food and you’re trying to defend against all that stuff.

That defensive mindset is weak. It’s weak. That’s why, even though they call it self-defense, right, fast defense, it’s actually not a defense system. You don’t defend in that system. They don’t teach you to defend. You don’t block. You never even block. You don’t try to… if someone’s, if the attacker throws a punch at you, you don’t even worry about it. You only attack that’s it. It should be called fast attack, okay, because they teach an attacking mindset.

You know, it’s kind of a phrase in English, the best defense is a good offense. Sometimes people say the opposite but either way. So the best way to defend yourself, the best way to protect yourself from problems is to attack, to attack your goals, to attack your problems, to attack the things you want, go after them aggressively, attacking mindset.

So that’s what I want you to do this month, I want you to have an attacking aggressive mindset, not to hurt somebody of course, I mean, it’s a metaphor. It’s a metaphor for a mindset that, instead of waiting, instead of protecting yourself you’re going out and getting things. You’re the attacker. You’re the aggressor. Choose a big dream or goal or problem in your life, something that’s bother you. You should have one of those. If you don’t have any big problems in your life, congratulations! Then you should have some big dreams.

And if you don’t have a big dream right now then you probably have a big problem. Choose one, and all this month and I mean every single day, not a couple times, all this month attack that problem or goal. Just decide and do something, okay, stop thinking about it. You’re not gonna think this month, I don’t want you thinking at all. No thinking. Decide, do, attack. That’s all you’re gonna to do.

Thirty days, you’re gonna do it every single day. Get on Twitter or Gabb and tell me about it. Tell me the result. You’re gonna like the result. This is effective. This is not so much about strategies, you’re not trying to find the perfect strategy. You’re not trying to find the perfect technique. This is just about attitude, mindset. Defensive vs. aggressive, defending versus attacking, attacking is the better mindset. Get out there and attack those life problems, attack those life goals this month.

See you soon. Bye for now.