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Hello VIP, and welcome to this month’s lesson. This is an exciting topic this month. The topic this month is reimagine, reimagine. Of course, ‘re’ means again, so it means imagine again.

Imagine what again? In fact, imagine everything again; your entire life. You see, sometimes in our life, probably most of the time we can focus on constant and never ending improvement. We can focus on making small improvements in a lot of different areas of our life, and then we will have a feeling of growing, and generally that gives us a feeling of being fulfilled, of being successful, of being happy.

However; it is necessary and powerful to every now and then make a total huge big change in your life, to completely reimagine your life, to think about every part of your life and how it can be totally and completely different.

I call this a spring cleaning for your life. Spring cleaning in many countries, certainly in the United States, spring cleaning is the idea that every spring people will go into their house and clean their house very, very well.

They throw away old stuff, they don’t just a little bit clean, they clean the floors, they clean the windows, the clean the ceiling, they clean all the furniture, they clean all the bathrooms, and they clean the closets. They clean everything, throw away a lot of stuff and the house is all new and clean and wonderful for the spring.

Maybe during a spring cleaning people might actually get rid of old furniture they don’t like and they buy some new furniture. Maybe they throw away the old curtains they had on the window and the buy new curtains.

They might paint the house, the inside and the outside. They might change the outside plants around the house. They make a total cleaning of the house and big, big changes sometimes during this spring cleaning.

I believe we all need a spring cleaning for our lives on a regular basis. This is not something you’d do every single month. We do need consistency so you need to be focused on your life’s purpose, focused on your goals, and making small improvements every day, every week, every month; that’s consistency, and that’s very important.

We’re not going to do this spring cleaning, this reimagination of our lives, every month. I recommend once a year. If your life is really busy and changing a lot you might do it twice a year, but at least once a year.

I’ll tell you your homework in advance. Your job is going to be to do your spring cleaning this month and you can keep doing it every year after this.

Why is it important? Why do we need this reimagination of our lives? The reason is that as human beings it’s just natural. We tend to establish habits and routines in our life.

Many habits and routines are very positive, that’s a good thing, its consistency. It helps us live our life’s purpose, that’s great.

The problem is that everybody, every human being, also develops habits and routines that are not necessarily healthy, that are not necessarily helping you on your life’s purpose, and some can actually be very negative.

Sometimes these bad habits, these bad routines, happen because we choose them. We make a bad decision and then we just keep making those bad decisions all the time.

Often times these bad habits, these bad routines, kind of happen automatically, unconsciously.

We just start doing some certain things or thinking a certain way or being around certain people. We don’t really choose it in a way, it just happens and then we accept it and then it continues on and on and on. Sometimes we don’t even realize it, and yet we’ve gotten ourselves into some bad habits or around some negative people, whatever the case.

Finally a third reason, a third situation is that we don’t have a lot of bad habits, but we’re stagnating. That means that yes maybe your life is good, it’s good, your relationships are good, your job is good, your financial situation? It’s good – your health, it’s good.

We get complacent. Complacent means you’re just happy with everything, which is a good thing we want to always be happy, but it also means you’ve lost your desire to grow. You’re not growing. You’re not going backwards, you’re not doing bad things, but you’re also not growing and learning and increasing who you are.

That’s a problem because life is about growth. If you’re not growing you are dying, Tony Robbins says that a lot and I agree with him. While everything might be good, don’t we want great? Don’t we want fantastic?

We don’t want just a good relationship with your husband or wife or boyfriend or girlfriend, you want a great fantastic passionate fun close amazing relationship with them. For that you have to constantly be growing in that relationship. You can never just stop and say okay, this is good enough.

As soon as you decide this is good enough, you lose some of that excitement and passion. The relationship kind of drops down a little bit. It doesn’t mean it’s terrible, but it’s not great.

It’s the same thing with our health. We can be very healthy and yet if we just do nothing, as time goes by and we get older and older, our health can just slowly go down a little bit and we don’t realize it. We still feel good, we’re still good compared to other people our age, but compared to ourselves, compared to excellence we’ve lost something.

You don’t want to compare yourself to other people your age because most people your age as they get older are getting very, very, very unhealthy. If you’re like me and you’re over 40, I’m 42 right now; I don’t want to be like most 42 year olds because most 42 year olds in America are fat, overweight, tired, and extremely unhealthy.

Just being a little bit better than them I still would be unhealthy, so I have to be much, much, much more energetic and healthy than them.

We get stuck. We get stuck and sometimes we’re just complacent. What do we need to do? Once a year we’re going to reimagine everything, and there’s a process for doing this. You have to do this in a certain way.

It’s not enough to just think about it – hmmm. That’s not very powerful. You’ve really got to change the patterns in your life. The first step is to take a personal retreat, a personal retreat.

A retreat means you retreat and you go away from your normal everyday life. You’ve got to break that pattern first. You’ve got to get away from all the normal things you do, all the people you are usually around, so that you can get away from those patterns and see your life more clearly then. You can think more clearly, you get a different perspective, a different point of view. This is very important.

If you try to think about this at your home, doing your same routine, going to your job, you’re not going to get the same power from it. A personal retreat. You have to change everything, so the first thing you have to change is the location.

This could be for one weekend, it could be a week or if you have a lot of time, it could be a month. What I want you to do is leave your hometown. Leave where you live and go to a new place. Go to a new and different place.

Maybe if you love camping you could go out into the woods and camp, or you could go to a new city or a new country. It doesn’t matter pick something that seems very different from your normal life.

The second thing is you’ve got to get away from all the people in your normal life, including your husband or wife, boyfriend or girlfriend, your children – everybody. This is something you do alone.

You’re not going to go visit relatives, you’re not going to go visit a friend in another town, and you’re not going to bring anyone with you. You’re going somewhere totally alone, to a new place, and you’re not going to stay with anyone else that you know. That’s very important.

You want to get away from all the people that are normally in your life. If you’re going to think about your life and reimagine your life you’ve got to be alone, you’ve got to have time alone in a totally different place.

Finally I’d like you to add at least one different activity during your personal retreat.

Wherever you go do something you never do usually in your life. I don’t care what it is just pick something in that location.

Let’s say you’ve never been sailing before – go on a sailing trip. Not for the whole time, just one day, or even half a day, just a few hours. Pay and go on a sailing trip because you’ve never done that before.

Maybe you’ve never ridden a motorcycle, so go to some place that teaches people how to ride motorcycles and take a half day course. It could be anything. It could be art – you could take an art class if you’ve never done that before. If you’re an artist, don’t take an art class. Do something that’s very, very different from your normal life, something that’s very different from your normal personality.

Doing that will help to start breaking your belief and breaks your thinking patterns, because you are stuck thinking in the same way every day. We all do this. You’re just used to doing the same things every day, you’re used to seeing the same people every day, and because of that you’re used to thinking the same kinds of things every day; thought patterns.

Also you’re probably used to having the same kinds of emotions every day, emotional patterns. If you want to break all of that you can see your life in a new way. Part of that is going to a totally new place, going it alone, and taking one very different activity.

This activity will just automatically change your thinking process. You’ll get new and different thoughts because you’re doing something totally new and different. You’ll feel new and different things because you’re doing something very different for you.

All of that just is a big break of your pattern to help you see things differently. So, you’re going to get out of your routine, you do something new, you do something different. Just by doing this of course you’ll meet different people also and that’s also great.

Step two, after you’ve done your new activity in the new place and you’re alone, the next thing is you’re going to sit down with your journal or with a piece of paper and you’re going to really ask yourself some serious questions about your life.

You’re going to examine your life. You’re going to examine the good, you’re going to examine the bad, and you’re going to examine the ugly.

The first thing I’d like you to do is examine the good. Write down all the things you’re grateful for in your life. All the wonderful things, people, places, activities and situations in your life now and even in the past if you want that you are so, so thankful for. Make this a long, long list.

Take 10 minutes, 15 minutes – two hours – and just write and write. Keep thinking, keep adding more, and adding more. Make it a really long big list, small things and big things that you are happy about, grateful for, in your life. We want to start from a strong position.

After you do that, kind of take a little break, drink a sip of water or coffee, go for a little walk or whatever. What you’re going to do next is look at things in your life that you no longer need. The first thing I want you to focus on is actual physical things, possessions you have that you really just don’t need them anymore you don’t use them anymore.

Make a list.

Make a list of clothes you never wear and yet they’re still in your closet. Make a list of things in your house or apartment that you have but you never use them. Anything and everything, physical possessions, things you don’t really want that you have and don’t use.

Of course when you go home you’re going to get rid of all those things, you’re going to throw them away. You’re going to have that list but then you’ve got to commit after you make that list that when you go home those things are gone

You can sell them, you can throw them in the trash, you can give them to a charity – it doesn’t matter but you’re going to get rid of all those things. It’s a spring cleaning, really, of your house. It’s an actual spring cleaning.

The next thing you’re going to do is you’re going to actually look at your life. You’re going to look at the situations and behaviors in your life that you no longer enjoy or need or want. Maybe you did need them or want them in the past, maybe you enjoyed them in the past, but the situation is different now and you no longer need or want these things.

I want you to think deeply about it, really think about it. Think about your daily life and daily activities. Which of those do you not like anymore? Which do you not need anymore or not want anymore?

Think of your work life, your financial life, your family and social life, your physical and health life, your eating habits – all of these things. Your emotional life, what are the thoughts that go through your head constantly or the feelings you have often that you just don’t like or need or want anymore?

Make a big, big long list of these. Of course then decide that when you get home, those things are gone also. You’re not going to do them anymore. You’re not going to have them anymore. Good-bye. It’s a spring cleaning of your mind, body and life.

This first step is just gratitude. The second step is getting rid of. It’s about elimination, eliminating things. Also part of this step; think about the people in your life that you no longer like or want to be around. You don’t enjoy being near them.

They’re negative, they don’t make you feel good, maybe they did in the past – but now they don’t. Maybe there’s nothing wrong with them, maybe they’re not negative, maybe just your life and their life now are so totally different and you’re trying to hold onto them but really you need to let go. You know you need to let go, you have known this for a long time. It’s finally time to do it.

Write down if there are any relationships with people that you need to let go of them, or at least modify them. Maybe you’re constantly with them a lot and you just need to give them more space and not be with them so much. Maybe you just need to change some relationships so that they are different and not, as intense.

You might be letting go of people totally or you might just be modifying how you see them, when you see them, how often you see them. Make that list and then resolve when you go home you’re going to follow through and you’re going to change those relationships.

Now you’ve gone through the getting rid of stage. What do you want to get rid of; what behaviors, what people, what situations, what emotions, what thoughts? You’re cleaning out.

Once you clean out, the final step is to add. This is the fun part. This is the part where you decide, what wonderful incredible life would I love to have? T his is where you’re just going to go crazy and use your imagination.

Think about your biggest dreams, think about crazy dreams you’ve had in the past or that you still have and want to be, or have always wanted to be. Think about the kind of activities and things you want to be doing every day in your life.

Think about the people and the kinds of people you want to be around. I just want you to write and write and write, let the ideas come from your head and just write and write and write; write as fast as possible.

Do this in your own language. Just go crazy, just keep writing and writing for 10 minutes, 30 minutes, one hour, two hours, five hours – I don’t know, as long as the ideas are coming keep writing about it.

Don’t decide this is a bad idea or a good idea; don’t judge it, just write down as many cool dreams and ideas about your crazy wonderful life you’d love. You can decide later which ones you like the best and which ones – maybe not. The first step is you’re just going to write and write and write as many crazy incredible ideas as you can about what you would love your life to be like.

Write different possibilities. Oh maybe this – I don’t know, maybe this or maybe this or maybe this. Write down as many possibilities as possible.

Of course, after you do that take a little break and go for a walk. Then come back, read it again and circle the ideas that really seem great and wonderful, where you’re like yes, this is what I want to be like, this is the kind of life I want, these are the kinds of people I want to be around.

This is what I want my work to be, like this is what I want my finances and money to be like. This is what I want my family and relationships to be like, and my friendships. This is what I want my health and my body to be like.

Circle those things and the you will start to get a picture of the new life for you. You are reimagining your life, you’re imagining again, and then you’re going to make a decision to create that life.

If you don’t know how then your first step will be to learn more. Go find books, tapes, classes, whatever; people to help you achieve whatever you imagined. You can take action and you’re going to do it. You’re going to have a vision, a new vision for your life.

The final thin I want you to do then is to take those pieces of paper where you wrote down all the things you want to get rid of and in your mind, imagine that’s your whole life. Imagine it dying. You can crumple up the paper, you can throw it away or you can burn it.

If you want to keep the list so you can remember it, copy it and then burn one of the copies, actually in your mind imagining; my old life is dying, my old life is dead. During this retreat I killed my old life, it’s dead and gone. It’s no more, that’s the old me, that’s the old life; it’s dead. Let it go completely. Imagine you have.